5 Tips to Get in the Mood Quickly

Your marriage has been a sexless marriage for a while. It’s because you usually do not feel like making love… And it bothers you, so you are here to get inspired on how to fix it – great! Below I presented you some tips on how to get in the mood for sex quickly.

I know, it might seem funny, since “mood” should just be there. But sometimes it requires some effort from our side to actually want to make love. Especially when you’ve been married for quite some time and butterflies are already gone.

But you’ve arrived at this article- and I do hope it can help you click a turn-on button once and for all 😉

Let’s dig right into it!

1. Plan it!

This strategy might seem “not spontaneous”, but hey, we have to start somewhere. If you are too busy to even think about having sex with your husband, I challenge you to put it into your calendar once a week. It will help you remember to find the time for it. And let’s be honest girl, we like this tension (sometimes even more than the act itself 😉) so hopefully it will build up in your joyful awaiting.

And also, planning something exciting can actually make you get in the mood for it. Seriously! If you have a problem with not wanting to make love, why won’t you put it into your calendar? And think positively about the time to come. Swift your mind and get excited.

Yes, you can control your feelings like this. Every great sex starts in the mind… so common, let yourself get in the mood there first 😉

Planning intimate moments may not be the most romantic and spontaneous way, but it is a great way to put you back on track. If you put a little reminder on every, let’s say, Thursday, believe me, soon it will become your husband’s favorite day of the week!

2. Write an attractivity list

What, Marysia? I am trying to have more sex with my husband and you’re telling me to write? YES! There is a huge connection between the mind and the body – that’s why I want you to write down all attractive qualities that you see in your husband – physical, mental, even social – whatever once made you think of him HOT.

I notice that in marriages partners too often take each other for granted. They stopped seeing each other as hotties because they got used to each other. Go against it, my dear reader! Make your list as long as it needs to be to fill you with unstoppable desire towards your husband once more.

To get in the mood is hard but easy at the same time. If you want to take your mind there, you can. Writing an attractivity list is a unique but helpful tool to put your mind in the right place. Taking your thoughts “out” of your head and putting them on paper has power. I know what I’m saying, I’m a writer 🙂 So trust me on this one.

3. Go on a romantic date!

It can be anything from a walk to a romantic dinner. Do not forget to put your best dress (and underwear 😉) on! you’d be surprised how much a simple things as attire can change. It can get you in the mood in no time.

Going on dates regularly gives you both space to focus on each other without any distractions. You can rest and connect. This might help your S compass to be set for other attractions coming after the date. This is a win-win! If your hubby will associate taking you on dates with sex, then he will be willing to take you to fancy places every day!

I do believe that going on regular dates is crucial to keep the sparks in a marriage. To read more about it, check out this article.

The thing is, you never stop dating. Marriage is not the end of romance – it’s only the beginning.

4. Invest in feeling sexy

Maybe for a while, you were too focused on taking kids to school, cooking, and maybe even working at the office to spoil yourself a little bit. If your husband is a knucklehead and he has never bought you a set of lingerie or a sexy piece of clothing, then who cares, buy it yourself.

Do not worry, he will forgive every amount spent (even from his card) if you simply appear in your newest purchase in front of him. We are complicated but simple – if we feel desirable, then we’re quicker to desire.

I think it’s healthy for a wife to once in a while buy herself something pretty. That will make her feel attractive and get in the mood more easily. If a woman is trapped between housework and does not have a minute for herself, then well, obviously she will not think about making love at all.

Luckily, it does not have to be like this. All it sometimes takes is to put on a hot lingerie and wear it the whole day to surprise your husband in the evening.

5. Organize a Special Night

Now, this might seem like a lot of work, but it will pay off. Get a babysitter if you have kids. Clean your schedule completely for that evening. Use all the tips from above to prepare for it. Make sure it’s unforgettable for both of you.

Such a special event once in a while brings back excitement in intimacy! You can spice it up by adding a list of things you would like to try but were too shy to confess. That kind of night should be a safe space for such experiments.

Again, great sex does not come just like that, it requires some work. And doing something big, like a special night, is a big booster in this work. Intimacy is a wonderful gift from God, so do not let it sit around and be wasted in your marriage.

Go, Go, Get in the Mood!

It is not easy to bring back sex as one of the priorities in a relationship, especially when it falls down so rapidly. Since there is so much sexual abuse happening in the world, we should fight this with pure, joyful intimacy in a marriage and have fun with this just like Solomon and his wife: Eat, friends, and drink; drink your fill of love (Song of Songs 5:1)