Intimacy in marriage is crucial – many say it’s like a glue in the relationship. And as a married woman, I can tell you – it IS. And the easiest way to have strong and sufficient glue is to read sex in marriage books.
I’ve spent the first year of my marriage reading sex in marriage books one after one and observing how from intimacy issues I am moving into deep, fulfilling closeness I have never imagined before.
And it is not dependent on your body, performance or if you have Victoria’s Secret lingerie or not – everybody can have it. The condition is – you need to want it and want to work on it.
And the easiest way is by reading value-packed articles or even better, books on these topics and implementing them.
1. Intimacy Ignited
Oh, this one certainly made me blush. I got it from an older lady as a marriage gift. Believe it or not, she gave me three marriage books, and… yeah, you guessed correctly, all of them were on sex.
So I’ve started from this one and it was a good choice. It does not cover all the topics one would like to read about regarding sex, but it covers the most important aspect of it.
The book focuses on the Song of Solomon so you can understand more deeply God’s design for sex and what is okay for Christians in a bedroom and what isn’t.
It is a perfect book to read as a newlywed – it helps to start feeling comfortable with sex and also guides a reader to a more fulfilling bedroom life.
If you never read sex in marriage books, I strongly recommend that you start with this one:
2. Intimate Issues: 21 Questions Christian Women Ask About Sex
This one feels like a girly talk on a sleepover – every common question about sex that you are too shy to ask is answered in this question.
You might be thinking – oh, but mine is so unique it won’t be found there. It most probably will.
Everything that was in my head for example – “What to do when I don’t like my body?” or “Is oral sex okay?” – was answered in a comprehensive biblical way.
And, what I also appreciate is that the authors are compassionate when it comes to using these words.
The book is written with such empathy that you can feel that the authors hug you through the pages. So if you have some questions about sex that you are too embarrassed to ask aloud, this book will provide you the answers.
For sure one of my favorite sex in marriage books so far! (And believe me, I’ve read a lot of them 😉
3. Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making?
At this point, you might think I am a psycho fan of Linda Dillow haha! But what can I do? She writes so well and her books do not make you cringe.
This book is the most beneficial for those who have been married for a while – at least a year I would say. But can be useful for fresh lovers that got kind of lost in all this passion thing.
I have to warn you, this is one of these sex in marriage books that will challenge you. It will simply expose if you are a good lover or not to speak directly.
No by performance, not at all! Rather the attitude.
If I needed to tell you one thing that I’ve learned from this book it would be – how to give and take in balance.
If you’re struggling in one or the other, it might help you a lot.
4. No More Headaches: Enjoying Sex & Intimacy in Marriage
This book helped me understand the differences between men and women and how they affect intimacy. Also, it can help you prioritize sex in your life and build up your intimacy to ht next level.
It covers the topics of parenting and generally life with kids and maintaining intimacy so I did not like it that much at first. But I was being a wife for 4,5 months only.
But after some time I read it again (yup, that’s why it is good to have sex in marriage books on your shelves so you can always come back to them) and then I loved it.
I think it prepared me mentally for the effort I and my husband will need to put into intimacy once we become parents. And guess what? It made me excited for that time to come.
5. The Naked Marriage
This couple is not shy to talk about sex in marriage from a Christian perspective. What is different about this book is that it covers the emotional intimacy that leads to sexual one.
What was surprising to me was that they cover the topics that nobody dares to talk aloud about – for example, how to deal with sexual fantasies as a Christian couple.
The couple that wrote it is… silly. But it gives the book this light vibe and makes the sex topics more natural and not taboo which is the huge advantage of this one.
Often lack of the first one blocks women from having mins-blowing sex so if you are looking for a book that covers every aspect of intimacy equally, this one is for you.
6. Intended for Pleasure: New Approaches to Sexual Intimacy in Christian Marriage
Last but not least as they say. This book did surprise me. I don’t think there is another book that so clearly way describes sex in marriage from a medical perspective.
We need that kind of knowledge! It might seem awkward at first, but after reading, you receive this “Aha” enlightenment moment.
What I loved about this book the most is that it gives hints on fulfilling the sexual needs of a spouse. It firmly sticks to Christian values and even if it talks openly about everything, the line is not crossed.
It’s a must-have on every Christian marriage bookshelf!
Reading Sex in Marriage Books Is a Great Investment
Books do not cost that much and you buy them once and you have them forever – this is the approach that I have.
I have a special shelf for my marriage books and I cherish it dearly. Not only because I’m a book worm but they just helped me so much!
If I didn’t know all of the things the books above taught me, I would be in a very bad place with my intimacy in marriage.
But let me encourage you – the money that you spend on sex in marriage books is never wasted. I mean, great sex with your spouse is worth every penny.
I always say – whenever in doubt, go to the library!
So, which of the books will you grab first? 🙂