How to Become a Wife Material? 3 Tips

I know, my sister. There comes this moment, this crucial and so mature question that you start asking yourself. How to become a wife material?

Maybe you went through one or two relationships that ended too quickly, or you simply look for something stable. You want to commit and I love this about you. It’s honorable and right to be willing to prepare for marriage, even if there is not a potential candidate on the horizon.

Of course, the job takes two – you need to work on yourself to become a wife material, and your future husband is probably doing the same. If you are curious about the qualities in men you should search for, make sure to check this article.

So common, let’s have a girly talk, shall we? 😉

What Is a Wife Material?

Forgive me, but I’m not going to quote the definition from Wikipedia. Let’s definite it rather on our own, logically and a little bit emotionally.

I think “a wife material” is a woman who is ready to get married and has certain qualities that are desired in such a relationship. And no, I don’t necessarily mean she can cook well 😉 Although it is always an advantage, I believe there are way more crucial qualities that one should work on.

A wife is so much more than just a cook. She’s a helper in any possible meaning and the crown of a family. It’s a prestigious role, and to be a wife material you have to have… Exactly, what? How to become a wife material? What qualities should be developed to be ready for marriage?

I wrote a separate article about all great qualities and skills one should work on before marriage, and continue on after getting married. Before we move on, I suggest you check this one out. This list covers 9 things that are essential to work on.

How to Become a Wife Material – First Step

Before you do anything else, this is your starting point. Honestly, I do not believe anybody can get far without this. Ready to hear about the secret sauce?

This magical factor is… grace. You need to accept that you are a sinner, but Jesus paid the price for it. You will never be a perfect wife material, and yes, you will make many mistakes. Yet it does not change your worth, do you understand?

Do not fall into any of the traps. For example, boasting that you have it all and you will make a perfect wife. Or, on the contrary, that you are hopeless and it is not worth trying to improve. These are all lies, and instead – head up, and work on yourself, but if you make a mistake once in a while, it’s fine. That’s where grace and forgiveness come into the picture.

Trust me, this attitude will save you a lot of tears because marriage is hard. No matter how much “prepared” you are for it, it will bring many unexpected challenges. So trust the process and don’t get discouraged, okay?

Once you have the attitude in the right place, you can move on to the next step:

Closer to God, Closer to Wife Material

The more you invest in your faith, the more you already invest in your future marriage. I know it might sound impossible, but it’s true. This is the place where you should spend the most time, because the more bonded you are with Christ, the more good qualities you absorb.

Everything else is a skill that you learn over practice, but relationship with Jesus is the thing you should invest in as first.

Also, if you are close to the Lord, you do not feel this urge to date. You are not lonely and you are not being desperate. Desperation is not an attractive quality.

So if you wonder how to become a wife material, start with becoming a disciple material. This is the base that will carry you for a lifetime, not only as a future wife but also generally as a woman. Because your individuality is still there after you say the vows. Sure, you are one, but you are still yourself.

Make sure this yourself is close to Jesus.

How to Become a Wife Material? Study Hard

Books, podcasts, blog posts like this one – the resources are unlimited. You can learn so much from them and time invested in yourself is never wasted. Simply because you will reap what you saw. In other words, what you improve in yourself while being single will show off during marriage.

It sadly applies also to bad things – because the marriage will expose the darkest side of you. Together with the best side – ha, marriage, so full of oppositions!

If you study hard and are willing to improve, you’re already a wife material. Because the truth is, nobody is ready for marriage, fully, unless it comes. It always brings some surprises and you cannot be prepared for them all.

So accept grace, work on your faith be ready to study and learn – that’s the essential advice I can give you.